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Monday, June 30

Keys to Unlock Your Potential



I am just wrapping up a month of training and corporate coaching for some executives and leaders across the great State of Tennessee.  I was honored to have an opportunity to coach on such a grand scale, and it really was the accomplishment of one of the bold goals that I set for my business at the beginning of the year and that was to do more leadership and group coaching.  I've always been passionate about helping others achieve their greatness, while at the same time learning to stretch myself beyond my comfort zone and doing the great work that I know I'm truly capable of, while unlocking my own potential. 

"When you stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone, that's when you find that you have additional capacity to do, receive and achieve much more." - Dr. Jacki


I believe that for many of us there are still untapped areas of hidden potential.  Some experts say that we only use about 10% of our brain.  I don't know if that's necessarily true however for the sake of argument let's assume that it is. If that's the case then that suggests that there is about 90% of  untapped potential within us that is not being maximized.
 

"One of the saddest things a person can do is to reach the end of their life without ever really knowing who they could have become had they made the choice to throw themselves fully towards their dream." - Dr. Jacki

 
I teach a personal development workshop entitled "Unlock Your Potential".  In the course we talk about effective ways in which you can position yourself to maximize your greatness.  Here are a few talking points:
 
1. Don't be afraid to break the rules.  The rules I'm referring to are those well defined boxes that people have created for you, based on how they perceive you.  Don't allow other people to define you, define yourself.  Don't allow the agenda of other people to come before the plan that God has for your life.
 
2. Remember the gift of imagination that you were born with.  Most people forget that when they were children they had a vivid imagination. We used to pretend and dream of what we would do and who we would become when we grew up.  Then life happened, and for many of us, we stopped imagining.  I believe that those early childhood dreams are very telling because they gave us a glimpse of a future life, what we could have done, and who we could have become, had we not been afraid to try.
 
3. Forgive.  "Wait did she just say forgive?  What does that have to do with unlocking my potential?'"

Well, I'm glad you asked.  Let me explain...when we harbor un-forgiveness in our hearts that turns into bitterness. When we are bitter what we are saying in essence is that the past has more power over us than our future. Un-forgiveness keeps you stuck in a place of low or NO productivity, and it prevents you from becoming the best person you could be.  Learning to forgive releases you from the pain of the past, so that you can become the best representation of your greatest self, and achieve your highest potential.
 
These are just a few of the topics that we explore in the "Unlock Your Potential" personal development workshop.  Here's how you can be a part of the next workshop!
 
 
Much Success!
Dr. Jacki
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Sunday, June 1

The Consequences of Making an Emotional Choice



Perhaps you've said something like this before..."But I love him..."  or maybe you've said something like this before in regards to a choice you were about to make... "This FEELS right,  therefore it must be right, RIGHT?"

Feelings are great, but feelings can also be tricky.  Living your life being led around by your feelings alone can get you into a world of trouble, and can ultimately cause you a lifetime of problems.

Consider a coaching client's situation. Let's call her Hazel for the sake of this example. Hazel was young and beautiful yet stuck in what she felt was a love-less marriage. Her husband had stopped paying attention to her in ways that mattered to her. Instead of seeking help to repair her marriage Hazel simply started to become bored. She longed for adventure, and boy did she find it.

Hazel hooked up quite accidentally with a charming, yet deceptive man who:
   1. Showered her with expensive gifts
   2. Wined and dined her
   3. Told her often everyday that he loved her and that one day he would make her his woman

Well, needless to say, Hazel was smitten, or should I say bitten by what she thought was love, based on how this man made her feel. She chose to see in him everything she felt was lacking in her husband, and she fell, deeper and deeper into his tangled web of deception.  Her emotions were involved, and even though deep down inside she knew it was wrong, she couldn't help herself. 

It took a long time before this man was actually revealed to her for who he really was. Up until that point, she simply couldn't see, and refused to listen to anyone who would try to tell her the truth.  It took a crash course in reality which included a hit in her finances before she was able to see the truth.  By that time she had lost her marriage, her career, and much of her money. Not to mention the respect of her family and friends.  Had she listened to wise counsel, had she heeded the warning voices in her own head, she would have avoided much of what she eventually went through as a result of being involved with him.

Fortunately through coaching, Hazel was able to recover her life and regain her self- respect, but it wasn't easy.

This is just a simple story.  Maybe you can relate to it on some level. Perhaps you can look back over your own life and see when and where you made an emotional decision, and how much it cost you.

Emotions, as wonderful as they can be, need to be guarded because when they are allowed to go unchecked they can cause us to do some irrational things. Love with your heart yes, but don't forget to involve your brain.  Trust your gut yes, but don't throw caution to the wind.  Above all, don't drive through warning signs, because they are there for your protection.

I talk a lot about chasing your dreams on DrJackisBlog, and I believe that we should chase dreams, with all my heart.  But when chasing your dreams consider these things as you coach yourself through the process:

*Am I chasing the right dream
Ask yourself this coaching question: "Is this something that I have a right to have?"

*Am I being driven by my emotions
Ask yourself this coaching question: "Have I ignored wise counsel from others who have my best interest at heart,  am I suppressing my own inner voice?"

And most importantly...

*Is God in it
Ask yourself this coaching question: "Is this truly a blessing from God or am I simply trying to make it fit because it's what I want."

Emotions are wonderful.  By all means, feel the joy, the happiness, the love, the excitement in all of it's beauty. Just don't ignore that still small voice inside of you, because when you choose to ignore it, it will leave you to your own devices, until one day you will wish you had paid more attention to the warning signs that were trying to tell you "danger" up ahead.

Much Success!
Dr. Jacki

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Wednesday, May 7

One Decision Can Have Multiple Consequences - Choose Wisely


Have you ever set out on a journey, and you weren't quite sure how to get there and so you followed the directions that you thought were right but you ended up someplace else. I know this has happened to you before, because it happens to all of us. I can remember one day when I was driving to see a client and I used my "Smart Phone" GPS system, which when I followed the directions I ended up in an abandoned field. I ended up being late for an important appointment because I had to drive around in circles trying to find the place, then I had to stop at a gas station to ask for directions, only to discover that my destination was on the other side of town. Obviously the GPS application on my "Smart Phone" wasn't smart enough to update the changes in the route, nor did it notify me that the business had moved and that the old address was now a vacant lot.

One decision to trust my GPS navigation resulted in multiple consequences...
1. I got lost
2. I was late for my appointment
3. I became frustrated
4. I could have lost an important client

Sometimes when we make choices we don't think about all of the consequences that could happen as a result.  Had I mapped out my route the night before, had I left a little earlier, I could have avoided all of those consequences and I would have made my way to my appointment, on time and stress free.

Choices in life, and in love, can lead to multiple consequences. Here's how you can avoid spiraling down the wrong path in terms of the choices you make:

Do Your Due Diligence
We spend more time researching and investigating how to buy the right kind of car or house than we spend in making decisions about important life matters and in entering into relationships. Don't give away your trust too easily, it is to be earned. Believe that you are worth someone putting in the effort to gain your trust before you make a decision to proceed forward.

Get An Accountability Partner
Get with someone who can and who will tell you the truth about what you are thinking about doing. Someone who you know has your best interest at heart, and preferably someone who doesn't have a dog in the fight. As smart as you are, you still need someone in your corner. It doesn't hurt to talk it over with a good friend, a trusted family member, or a Life Coach such as myself, to help you gain clarity before you move forward.

Much Success!
Dr. Jacki

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Wednesday, March 26

How to Become Location Independent - Work & Career


There's a fairly new buzz phrase going around among small business owners/entrepreneurs and it's called the location independent entrepreneur. Basically that means having the ability to work from anywhere in the world, without being tied to an office, a cubicle, or a specific location.  If you are an employee it's also a great opportunity to begin to incorporate some new ideas if you value working from home. I've experienced working from home as an employee, and now as an entrepreneur. I know that working this way is not necessarily everyone's cup of tea, but for the people who would love to explore this opportunity, these tips should position you so that you can begin to make that transition.

Decide What You Can And Cannot Live Without
As I often say, everything has an opportunity cost. Being a minimalist, I have no problem living with less "stuff". Having the ability to pick up and go, when ever I want to, is something that I treasure. I love to travel, I love experiencing new places and meeting new people, so for me, having the ability to live my life to the fullest and still work (by having my laptop, my iPad, and my phone) are all things that afford me freedom and independence. But you have to decide for yourself what you can live with and what you can't live without. Maybe having a community of co-workers that you interact with every day is important to you, or maybe knowing where you are going to be each and every day is something that you value. Be honest with yourself about what you know you need, and what you know you could let go of.

Embrace The Wonderful World Of Technology 
Being location independent doesn't mean that you have no human contact, in fact, when you tap into technology you open yourself up to the abundance of the world. I do much of my work online, I teach courses, I coach, I write blogs, I record videos, and I am able to interact with people across my social networking sites from all over the world. It's really impossible to be location independent and not have a web presence, so if you are afraid of being searched on Google then this work model may not be a good fit for you.

Negotiate With Your Employer
As an employee you can still experience the flexibility of being able to design your work/life balance so that it suits you more based on your personal needs and desires. Don't shy away from having a conversation with your boss. Make sure that you are armed with valuable reasons why working from home, or becoming location independent, would  be in your company's best interest. Showcase your talents, and how your value to them would increase if you had such flexibility. Begin to think about ways in which you could increase your employer's bottom line by such an arrangement. You may not get everything you want in the deal, but you may get every Friday as a day in which you could experience working from home, you never know.

Much Success!

Dr. Jacki

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